Recognising and Supporting Maths Anxiety in Your Child - A Parent’s Guide

Mathematics is often dubbed the universal language, yet for many children, it feels more like a cryptic code wrapped in dread. While some pupils thrive on numbers and logic, others experience a deep-rooted fear known as maths anxiety. This isn’t just a dislike of the subject - it’s a genuine emotional response that can hinder learning, self-esteem, and long-term academic confidence.

As a parent, recognising the signs early and knowing how to respond can make all the difference. In this blog post I’ll explore what maths anxiety looks like, why it matters, and how you can help your child navigate it with resilience and support.

What Is Maths Anxiety?

Maths anxiety is a psychological condition where individuals feel intense fear, stress, or helplessness when faced with mathematical tasks. It can manifest in various ways, from physical symptoms to avoidance behaviours.

Signs to Watch For

Children may not always articulate their struggles, so it’s crucial to observe their behaviour and emotional responses. Common signs include:

• Avoidance of maths homework or class discussions

• Frequent complaints of stomach aches or headaches before maths lessons

• Tears, frustration, or shutdowns during maths-related tasks

• Negative self-talk such as “I’m rubbish at maths” or “I’ll never get this”

• Over-reliance on help, even for tasks they’ve previously mastered

• Sudden drop in performance, despite effort or previous success

Why It Matters

Maths anxiety doesn’t just affect grades - it can shape a child’s entire attitude towards learning. Left unaddressed, it may:

• Limit future academic and career opportunities

• Undermine confidence in other subjects

• Create a cycle of avoidance and underachievement

• Affect mental well-being and self-worth

How Parents Can Help

Parents can play a pivotal role in breaking the cycle of maths anxiety. Here’s how you can support your child:

1. Normalise the Struggle

Let your child know that it’s okay to find maths challenging. This helps reduce shame and opens the door to honest conversations. Share your own experiences of overcoming challenge if relevant.

2. Avoid Negative Language

Be mindful of how you speak about maths. Phrases like “I was never good at maths either” may unintentionally reinforce anxiety.

3. Focus on Effort, Not Just Results

Praise persistence and problem-solving, even if the answer isn’t correct. Reinforce the idea that mistakes are part of learning.

4. Create a Calm Environment

Avoid high-pressure situations around homework. Set up a quiet, distraction-free space and offer gentle encouragement rather than hovering or correcting. Don’t push your child if they are feeling anxious as that can exacerbate their anxiety. Avoid timing activities and, as much as possible, work together with your child to develop their confidence.

5. Use Real-Life Maths

Incorporate maths into everyday activities - cooking, shopping, or budgeting. This helps demystify the subject and shows its practical value.

6. Seek Support Early

If anxiety persists, consider speaking with your child’s teacher or a specialist. Tutors trained in maths anxiety can offer tailored strategies and build confidence gradually. If you don’t know where to go, I’d be happy to support - just reach out using the form on the Contact page, or the “chat” button on this page.

Building a Growth Mindset

Ultimately, the goal is to help children see maths not as a threat, but as a challenge they can overcome. Encourage a growth mindset - where abilities are seen as developable through effort and practice. Celebrate small wins, and remind your child that progress, not perfection, is the true measure of success.

Final Thoughts

Maths anxiety is real, but it’s not insurmountable. With empathy, patience, and proactive support, parents can help their children transform fear into confidence. The journey may be gradual, but every step forward is a victory worth celebrating.